In a perfect world, children wouldn’t have to deal with stressful situations. However, there will be times when your child struggles to cope with what’s going on around them. Whether they find themselves in an unhealthy social environment or dealing with personal challenges, they will likely need help getting by. That’s where you can come in. While you can’t make the situation go away, you can help your child through it. Here are some tips.
Recognizing Signs of Distress
It can be hard to tell if your child is experiencing everyday stress or if something deeper is going on. If you’re starting to feel like you don’t know your child anymore, that’s a sign that something is getting them down. Look for changes in behavior and mood. See if your child is having trouble sleeping or eating properly. When children become more withdrawn, it’s often because they’re dealing with hard feelings and don’t want to be a burden.
Helping Your Child Process Emotions
Your child may be dealing with big emotions they’re not used to for the first time, and that can be scary. The best way to support them in this time is through open communication. Let them know that their feelings are valid, even if you don’t understand them. Make it clear that you’ll be there when they’re ready to process their feelings.
Sometimes, children need professional help, especially if they’ve been through something traumatic, like a divorce or a natural disaster. There’s nothing wrong with seeking the help of a counselor, and it can greatly benefit a child’s mental health.
Teaching Your Child Coping Mechanisms
Even if you wish you could be, you won’t always be there when your child goes through a tough time. Take time to teach your child about healthy coping mechanisms so they can eventually be independent. When you see your child taking healthy actions, like taking a deep breath before speaking with anger, let them know they did a good job. Along with in-the-moment actions, self care can go a long way toward feeling better. Exercising, taking showers and brushing their teeth can help your child feel in control and feel better overall.
Setting a Positive Example
If you want your child to know how to manage during hard times, show them. Focus on managing your own stress and emotions in a healthy manner. Use the coping skills you’re teaching your child. And when you fall on hard times, take care of yourself, and seek support when you need it. Children learn best when they have positive role models to follow.
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